If you look up the word/term “Gamer” this what you get, “A gamer is one who plays and/or devises games” “Someone who plays games as a hobby” “a person who plays games especially : a person who regularly plays computer or video games” You can look up for days all the terms and so on and so fourth what they have. I looked for a good 20 minutes on google and other various sites and the definitions above are generally what I see and come across. I know other folks will have a different view to this while some may not mind I am thinking of the bigger picture here. I did not see the “Gamer Girl” anywhere I looked. I am sure if I spent more time I’d see something somewhere but anyways I didn’t.
My personal view point on this too. I honestly haven’t referred to anyone as a “Gamer Girl” like with so many others they are gamers. Passionate and love their choice of entertainment just like the rest of gamers. I hate how the few who have to label such gamers by such labels “gamer girl” “fake gamer” “nintendo fanboy” I don’t get it. Sadly with how society has been going also I see a lot of it getting worse and worse. When I used to go into gaming online we all treated each other as equals and human beings. We didn’t think or dare to try to label anyone based on gender, sexuality, race, religion, etc.
When I was growing up my choice of gaming was the NES and a PC. I would play some of the NES with my Dad casual fun. If we are talking more hardcore here then I’m on the PC with my Mom. We played some coloring games, Those old story book games, My favorite was the Toy Story PC game. I could maybe do 3 of the levels, It was my Mom, She was the master of the game. Watching her go through level by level and beating them inching closer towards the end of the game, It was something so special. Unfortunately we got to the end of the game and didn’t beat it. It did get pretty tough. There were so many other games though on the PC that I played with my Mom as a kid, That is how I got my passion and into gaming.
I used to game a lot with my sister also back in the day. N64 and PlayStation up to the PS2/Gamecube was our thing. More great gaming memories she used to help me progress through some games and we used to work with each other in getting past games. As I did get older though I did think and wonder how she felt that a lot of games we played mostly had a male protagonist role or focused on a man for the game. This wasn’t any bad thinking on my part, This was because I know my sister had fun with gaming and I sure didn’t want to see her lose that passion and that something that was apart of her life. One Easter she got a game Rogue Ops for the PS2 that featured a female role. I remember that she spent so much time completing that game she felt so immersed in it, I loved it.
To me gaming is for everyone, Some enjoy different aspects and other types of gaming than what others do. I remember at school during my primary days honestly actually most of the kids didn’t game at all, The girls also weren’t into it and I remember some saying that it was because the guys (men) turn it into some hardcore competition that doesn’t make it fun for them. I have never been about that, Unfortunately I can still see that divide these days also. Worse part too it’s especially in online gaming where girls get raided with all these questions, quizzes, doubts, why they game, etc. Now how ridiculous is that? It’s gaming it’s entertainment it’s whats fun for them! Going back to the label on this though “gamer girl” like I mentioned to some ladies they don’t mind anything being called that, That’s fine. My point will go to how I seen my friend Kate word it in a tweet and I couldn’t have agreed more. “I hate the term gamer girl. Last time I checked, I’m just a gamer. My gender has zero to do with gaming” It’s worded so perfectly and I applaud my friend Kate for sharing this in an age where social media can be quite a rowdy place. Anything to do with gender doesn’t have anything to do with a gamer. You may ask does the term gamer guy bother me? To me not personally but I can see why to others they would ask why. It’s an unnecessary label that we don’t need.
I have to be quite honest here too, I honestly don’t really know what the ladies go though. In a way too I don’t think I’ll ever understand. I just hope for a day or a time where we don’t have to label anyone by gender on gaming and so on. Now again we’ll get to the point on some people “The term does not bother me” the keyword in that was “Me” the person itself. It honestly doesn’t have to bother you or the “me” in particular, It’s the other person. In all I just say respect that person. I tailor myself with how I am with friends I just find it as a form of respect. The many terms can be attributed to an old way of thinking, As a society we’ve built years and years upon things that we think or thought that were fine and just brushed it off to the side while the feelings of those and such had just been buried away. Now as society and those who have risen up and gathered their voice to speak out you have those of the old way shouting back “oh no this is how it’s been for years! it doesn’t matter! I mean it doesn’t matter to me!” The keywords in there “Me” “It doesn’t matter” Attribute the respect that should be going fourth.
To end off I just ask, Think about the next time when you use the terms “Gamer Girl” think about that other person. You will have your beliefs and opinions, For those guys that think it’s fine or don’t have an issue with it quite honestly that’s not for you to say as your not in the perspective or position to give. Just think about how that nice lady who enjoys her games not because the game has something to do with gender, It’s just a game and shes playing it without any label or grief whats so ever. “Why am I being called a gamer girl? wouldn’t I be just as a gamer as anyone else would be?” Of course. There are so many of us out there like my friend Kate who accept and welcome all gamers no matter how they be! We love the fact that we can interact and share our experiences with those because we connect with gaming.
Huge shout out goes to my dear friend Kate. I first thank her so much for allowing me to share this post and write about something that I hope someone reads and they feel the comfort in knowing there are gamers like me and Kate who truly care. I also want to thank Kate on some inspiration to me. Kate has a beautiful blog site that I truly have enjoyed, It inspired me to keep up my work and connect with more fellow gamers out there. I encourage you to check out her site here https://esperdreams.com/ please give her some love she deserves a lot! I am very humbled and appreciate of our friendship.
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